Will the NFL be as brave as Michael Sam?
By Perry Deane Young
The
question is: Will the NFL be as brave as
Michael Sam? Missouri’s star
All-American lineman has come forth to openly discuss his homosexuality. Prior to this, he was a prime pick for the
NFL Draft. What will happen now is up to
the powers that be in the NFL.
The
question has never been whether there are gay men playing in the NFL. There have always been gay pro football
players; they just lived in fear of losing their careers if their true sexual
orientation were made public. The
question has always been how the league would deal with an openly gay player. And, in the past at least, the answer has
always been not very well; in fact, not at all.
Back
in late 1975, The Washington Star ran a series of articles about gays in
sports. It was a courageous series. The Redskins’ All-Pro tight end Jerry Smith
gave a detailed interview about the agony of living a double life as the macho
football hero while knowing secretly he was homosexual. There was only one problem with the series in
general and Smith’s interview in particular, nobody allowed his or her name to
be used. And the groundbreaking series
was roundly ignored.
That
was when David Kopay, a 10- year veteran of the NFL, stepped into the
picture. “Well, at least I can do that,”
he thought when he read the anonymous interview with his old friend and first
love. People had speculated about gays in the NFL
for years, finally Kopay confirmed it.
One sportswriter said: “Just by
standing still and saying who he was, Kopay has reaped a whirlwind.”
Although
Kopay’s playing days were over, it is wrong to assume there were no risks
involved in his decision. By publicly
discussing his homosexuality, Kopay knew he was closing the door on any kind of
sports-related job. Until his recent
retirement, he worked as a salesman in his uncle’s floor-covering store in Los
Angeles.
In
December of 1975, the editor of the
series was fearful as he led Kopay across the Star’s newsroom to see an advance
copy of the front page interview to be published the next day. He kept asking if Kopay were sure, did he
fully understand the consequences of what he was doing. All Kopay could feel was relief. A lifetime of guilt and shame was suddenly
lifted from his shoulders. “It was game
time,” he would say later, “the national anthem was playing.” And he
would eventually settle in with no regrets as an elder statesman of the gay
rights movement.
I
read the Kopay interview and we immediately began work on our book, The David Kopay Story. It was a painful process for him. I insisted he go back and confront the family
members who had cursed and disowned him, and his former teammates. In May of that year, he was elected captain
of the alumni team at the University of Washington’s annual varsity-alumni game,
the first game played in the King Dome. But they held the coin toss off the field
because they were afraid somebody might take a shot at Kopay, as happened in
Patricia Nell Warren’s novel, The Front Runner.
I sat high up in the stands,
dreading the worst, only to join in with a standing ovation as Kopay ran onto
the field. Our book would be on the New York Times bestseller list
for almost two months in 1978 and 30,000
people wrote to say the book had changed their lives. Former San Diego Charger Esera Tuaolo said on
Good Morning, America he was so tortured by his double life, he was ready to
kill himself. He held up a copy of The
David Kopay Story and said, “this book saved my life.” It was a rare and very
special moment when an author is able to hear such heartfelt response to his
work. From the beginning, I understood
and appreciated the importance of a former pro football player discussing his
homosexuality. Author Merle Miller
called me up and said “Kopay has changed a stereotype over night.”
In
many ways, Kopay and I were cultural opposites.
He was a star player in several sports. I played piano and never made a team. But, through our shared experiences we forged
a friendship that endures to this day. I
learned that big tough football players are maybe just as human as you and me.
The
men Kopay had worked with in the NFL
were actually proud of what he had done.
Every single one of them had gone through some sort of personal crisis
during and after their playing years.
Moreover, I would learn that behind the scenes everybody knew that
certain players were gay and it was no big deal to the other players.
Vince
Lombardi, surely the epitome of the macho image in pro sports, was especially
tolerant of gays on his team. In fact,
Lombardi’s general manager and information director were both actively
homosexual. Lombardi had no problem
knowing about Jerry Smith or Kopay. His
only problem with Kopay was when he dropped a pass in a crucial game. Lombardi never forgave him. All that mattered to Lombardi was how they
played the game. The general manager,
who lived openly with a younger man and ran a gay bar in Key West in his
retirement, told me there was only one time Lombardi got upset about a player’s being gay. This had nothing to do with the player’s
action on the field, but with the fact he kept getting arrested in the men’s
room in Lafayette Park. It wasn’t his
being gay that caused Lombardi to fire him, it was that he had publicly
embarrassed the team.
In
other words, it was always the “box
office,” the public image and ticket sales that ruled the day. And, I suspect, that will be what ultimately
decides whether the NFL’s corporate owners are as brave as young Michael Sam. Let’s hope they face the reality that
attitudes about gays in America have changed dramatically in recent years. Drafting Michael Sam won’t hurt the box
office and might just help the team win some games. As Lombardi said so well, winning is not the
most important thing, it’s the only thing.
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